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millenium girl
02-25-2009, 11:22 AM
Sex chemistry 'lasts two years'

Certain hormones are active during the 'acute love' phase
Couples should not worry when the first flush of passion dims - scientists have identified the hormone changes which cause the switch from lust to cuddles.

A team from the University of Pisa in Italy found the bodily chemistry which makes people sexually attractive to new partners lasts, at most, two years.

When couples move into a "stable relationship" phase, other hormones take over, Chemistry World reports.

But one psychologist warned the hormone shift is wrongly seen as negative.

Dr Petra Boynton, of the British Psychological Society, said there was a danger people might feel they should take hormone supplements to make them feel the initial rush of lust once more.

'Not ever-lasting'

The Italian researchers tested the levels of the hormones called neutrophins in the blood of volunteers who were rated on a passionate love scale.

It is suggesting that what happens first is the best bit - and that isn't true
Dr Petra Boynton, British Psychological Society

Levels of these chemical messengers were much higher in those who were in the early stages of romance.

Testosterone was also found to increase in love-struck women, but to reduce in men when they are in love.

But in people who had been with their partners for between one and two years these so-called "love molecules" had gone, even though the relationship had survived.

The scientists found that the lust molecule was replaced by the so-called "cuddle hormone" - oxytocin - in couples who had been together for several years.

Oxytocin, is a chemical that induces labour and milk-production in new and pregnant mothers.

Donatella Marazziti, who led the research team, said: "If lovers swear their feelings to be ever-lasting, the hormones tell a different story."

Similar research conducted by Enzo Emanuele at the University of Pavia found that levels of a chemical messenger called nerve growth factor (NGF) increased with romantic intensity.

After one to two years, NGF levels had reduced to normal.

'Real Cupid's arrows'

The researchers said: "Whether more nerve growth is needed in the early stage of romance because of all the new experiences that are engraved into the brain, or whether it has a second, as yet unknown function in the chemistry of love, remains to be explored."

Michael Gross, a bio-chemist and science writer who has studied the latest findings, said: "It shows that different hormones are present in the blood when people are acutely in love while there is no evidence of the same hormones in people who have been in a stable relationship for many years.

"In fact the love molecules can disappear as early as 12 months after a relationship has started to be replaced by another chemical glue that keeps couples together."

He added: "To any romantically inclined chemist, it should be deeply satisfying to be able to prove that chemical messengers communicate romantic feeling between humans."

"It may be the only thing that science can offer as a real-world analogy to Cupid's arrows."

But Dr Boynton said: "This feeds into a 1970s view that when you meet it's all sparky, and then it's a downward trajectory to cuddles - which is seen as a negative.

"It is suggesting that what happens first is the best bit - and that isn't true."

She added: "I'm concerned that, having identified these hormones, there will be some move to suggest replacements to recreate the early passion."

Bunny
02-25-2009, 03:55 PM
Good Post!:p

Rhiannon
02-27-2009, 05:51 AM
ewwwww gross!! make me think about my parents :( they have been together for 22 years and married for 20 of those years and they still do it. So in their case thats untrue.

Wabbitt
02-27-2009, 09:27 AM
Well, just remember...if it hadn't been for your parents doing it, you wouldn't be here:D I think it's great they are still intimate after 22 years! You are very lucky. It's rare for parents to be together so long over here.

Bunny
02-27-2009, 08:31 PM
That would be awesome to be with someone for the rest of my time:p or theirs whatever comes first!:D

Wabbitt
02-27-2009, 08:55 PM
That would be awesome to be with someone for the rest of my time:p or theirs whatever comes first!:D

Someone? I hope you mean me, and in our case, I think we both know who's time will come first:mad:;)

Rhiannon
02-28-2009, 12:31 AM
Well, just remember...if it hadn't been for your parents doing it, you wouldn't be here:D I think it's great they are still intimate after 22 years! You are very lucky. It's rare for parents to be together so long over here.

Yeah thats true, but what seems to shock ppl more is the fact is that all 4 of us are dads lol people arent used to that at all. But they have their own group of friends that they hang out with and also friends that they share.

Plus they are opposites as well, which helps a lot. Stupid story here, but last year, there were crocs in the river and her and one of her friends had an arguement about whether you would get eaten by a shark or croc first, dad help their shoes as they jumped off the bridge Just to test the theory LOL Ones never grown up and the other one is there as support LOL

That would be awesome to be with someone for the rest of my time:p or theirs whatever comes first!:D

Hopefully you have found that person :D I think you have :D

Bunny
02-28-2009, 08:35 AM
Hopefully you have found that person :D I think you have :D

Thats what I am counting on... Thanks Rhiannon! I hope our big day comes soon:p

Wabbitt
02-28-2009, 03:56 PM
Thats what I am counting on... Thanks Rhiannon! I hope our big day comes soon:p

Any day you are ready baby! Just waitin on you to make all the big elaborate plans so I can start tryin to figure out how the hell we are gonna pay for it:D

Buck Wild
02-28-2009, 06:07 PM
Any day you are ready baby! Just waitin on you to make all the big elaborate plans so I can start tryin to figure out how the hell we are gonna pay for it:D

Justice of the piece is only 20 bucks, the party after is what you should spend the money on.

Wabbitt
02-28-2009, 06:27 PM
Hell, her dress alone is a weeks pay;)

She wants to get married in a church I think, or on the beach, but at least by a pastor.

Buck Wild
02-28-2009, 09:43 PM
Hell, her dress alone is a weeks pay;)

She wants to get married in a church I think, or on the beach, but at least by a pastor.

The beach does sound nice. Right at sunset damn i am gettin all mushy.

Wabbitt
03-01-2009, 08:17 AM
The beach does sound nice. Right at sunset damn i am gettin all mushy.

Yeah, you sound like me after I forgot to take my adex all week:p Was getting all teary eyed and stuff, then I was like wtf, I better take my adex. Bunny said now I know what it feels like to be a woman:puke: